Before I dive in, I’ll admit that I’m broken. I have a beautiful family; a wife and three wonderful children, but I cheat all the time. I have been married for over 10 years and cheated from day one. And while I know I’ll never win any popularity contest by admitting it, what has happened over the past decade is that I’ve mastered the art of deception. Not only did I get better at finding and picking up very beautiful women, but I also learned how to get away with it.
If you’re wondering why I cheat when everything is so perfect at home, it’s just because I crave attention. And for all married men out there, one thing you’ll learn is that when you have kids, your wife’s focus shifts to them, not you.
While most married men are mature enough to accept this, I have a hard time dealing with it. I need that attention from someone, I crave it. And cheating, during my affairs, for the women I cheat with, I am the center of their world, and that trumps any other feelings I might have. This is euphoria.
Cheating is not something I can brag about. I mean, think about it, I can hardly tell my friends for fear of it ever getting out. It’s a lonely existence, and not bragging about it takes every fiber of my being to keep quiet. You can only imagine the scenario, I confide in a friend, he secretly tells his wife, she secretly tells her hairdresser, and the Chinese whispers continue to my wife.
No, thank you!
The risk factor is too high. But after years of cheating, years of getting away with it, years of the most wonderful adventures, I needed an outlet.
And so I started a blog called the Cheater’s Handbook. I honestly never thought anyone would read this. However, only 2 national newspaper articles contacted me to write for them. Then a month later, an even bigger newspaper asked me to write for them. They kept calling me “Hitch for Cheaters”
During the preparation for publication, I corresponded a lot with the editors, and one of them said:
“I’m not sure what impresses me more, the fact that you successfully cheat so often, or the fact that you have a system to get away with it. Have you ever thought about being some sort of dating coach for men?”
Of course I didn’t at the time. I have several businesses and it never occurred to me to offer this as a service. However, most of my blog wasn’t just about telling me how to find women or what the best dating sites are for romance – NO! It was more about how to be careful, how to maintain a happy family life and never let the two worlds merge. In many ways I coached without even knowing it.
There are websites that are very famous, such as Ashley Madison, which have more than 60 million users. What does this tell you? This tells us that there are at least 60 million people (men and women) who are curious, have cheated once, or actively cheat regularly. This number represents to me how far it goes. And if you look at the separation and divorce rate today compared to 10 to 15 years ago, it’s never been higher.
Maybe discreet cheating is the answer to a happy marriage. I can tell you firsthand that this is indeed the case for me.